Udisha Srivastav: Why Is It So Hard For Women To Leave A Toxic Relationship?

If you have been in a toxic relationship, you can realize the pain of struggling to quit the relationship every day. A normal relationship has its ups and downs. However, a toxic relationship leaves you amid self-doubts and grief.

Still, letting off a harmful relationship is never effortless, particularly when you are still in “love”. In short, your soul requires more time to accept what your brain already understands.

When you are in love with someone, your first priority may be to excuse them when they hurt you, and just hold on and wish that things will get better. Well, ladies, that counts more like a fairy tale!

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What Are Toxic Relationships?

So, a toxic relationship is any relationship that is defined by the behaviors of the toxic partner who are emotionally and, not hardly, physically harmful to their partner. 

Well, all relationships are different but it all comes down to how you understand and feel them. Whether you are glad and satisfied most of the time and there is only a little fight, the relationship will be healthy. However, if you continuously feel weary or disappointed after spending time with your partner, it could be a reminder that things need to be rewritten.

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Why Is It So Hard To Move On?

Alright, there are many emotional reasons why women stay in relationships that make them disappointed. They include financial dependence, a feeling of responsibility or loyalty, worry about the effects of divorce on children, societal pressure, and religious beliefs amongst others. 

There are a lot of factors that influence an individual’s decision to continue in an abusive relationship. While struggling to get out of these toxic relationships is the most crucial thing, criticizing someone in an offensive relationship is never alright.

So, let’s focus on the core psychological reasons that may keep women stuck in a toxic relationship.

  • Normalization Of Toxic Relations.

Society normalizes harmful behavior so people may not realize that their relationship is abusive. Above all, they might feel ‘ok’ despite all of it.

  • Destroys Self-Esteem.

Personal abuse destroys a woman’s self-esteem, self-respect and makes it feel even more difficult to start afresh.

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  • Self Victimization

Women feel personally accountable for their partner or their behavior.

  • Belief Of Things Might Change

They think that if they stick it out, things might improve. This is nothing more than irrational optimism.

  • Fear of Society

Another critical reason for being stuck in a relationship is the fear of how others will react to it.

  • Fear Of Life-Threatening Situations Post Break Up

Several times, walking away from an abusive relationship is not only emotionally hard, but can also be life-threatening. Hence, the very dangerous period in an abusive relationship is often post-break-up. 

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The Art Of Letting Go!

Walking off is difficult. Why? Because, let’s be real here, being lonely is a scary thing for most people. Even the most confined introvert longs for human relations, devotion, and connection sometimes. However, when a relationship rolls into toxicity, particularly if you have children in the mix, the fairest thing you can do for yourself is to get out.

“You are not a rehab, so it’s not your job to fix everyone.”

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Udisha Srivastav is a Freelance Content Writer with Femsay.com