Forging relationships is one of the most important parts of our lives. There are some relationships that we are bestowed with and there are some that we nurture and build ourselves. In the end, what is the point of these relationships? To the end forests of my wild imagination, I can say these relationships make us feel stronger, reward us with companionship, boost our confidence and multiply our energy, and provide all kinds of support that are known to human existence. Well, the question now is, why do we see people around us stuck in their relationships rather than living them. Here are a few qualities that a woman must look for in her partner.Â
Your Partner Should Be Your Equal
Once Michelle Obama said, “marry your equal” and it left me puzzled because I couldn’t imagine the equalness in terms of finances, social status, or anything. However, what she meant was, marry someone who wants you to win as much as you want him to win. The essence of what she said is impressioned on my mind. As a woman, you must look for a partner who is not bound by insecurities and lets you win and take over the world.
One Who Respects Your Opinion And Ambitions
Women can be ambitious and opinionated, there is no doubt about it. Make sure your partner does not discard your opinion based on your gender. In all senses, your partner must stand beside you and encourage you to fulfill your ambitions. Trust me, it is not too much to ask for.
Prioritizing Yourself Shouldn’t Be An Issue
Men around us are conditioned in such a way that they have their priorities set even after getting married. They run after success and get a chance to stay adventurous (in terms of giving time to their hobbies and doing what they like). More often than not, the priorities of a woman generally shift and she is required to take a U-turn and nurture her family rather than looking after herself the way she might used to. The point is, if your partner can have his priorities set, so can you.
Your Partner Shouldn’t Shrink Your Existence
Women are often trapped under the pressure of being a good wife, mother, daughter-in-law, and whatnot. On the face of that, your existence must not be shrunk by someone who denigrates you values, disregards your viewpoints, and confines you inside the home. Above all, you must have every fair chance to occupy the space as you deserve and your partner has a very big role to play here.
Your Partner Must Stand For Feminism
Feminism is the movement that advocates women having equal rights, equal opportunities, equal space, no pay gap based on gender, right on their bodies, etc. For the same reasons, your partner must hold feminist viewpoints which would simply mean that he stands for equality and would stand for you when anything sexist or misogynist is thrown at you (I hope you don’t face sexist barks but let’s be real). You both must be able to stand up for each other.Â
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Udisha Srivastav is a Freelance Content Writer with Femsay.com